How Having a Child Affects Your Relationships

I always believed that having a child would bring family closer together. Now, I’m not talking about significant others. I’ve heard stories of how the stress causes people to drift from one another. My husband and I struggled in the early months with Silas. But what I want to focus on, is not significant others,

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Prayer For The Bereaved Parent

My sibling in Christ, I wish I could bring you in closer, and tell you that everything will be okay. I know right now that you are not ready to hear that. How can everything be okay if you just lost your baby? How is everything going to be okay when moving on seems like

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Beginning Of The Work Week Means Prayer Time

Lord today I just want to pray for everyone that is starting their workweek. Mondays are usually meant with dread and annoyance, but today Lord, today, Mondays are to be celebrated. I declare that today, those who have been seeking, will have clarity. There will be promotions and callbacks on this day. I cover us

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Maybe The Problem is You

My favorite thing to do is to read. I’m on my bible app first thing in the morning, I scroll through Facebook and read the posts and the comments. Sometimes, I scroll on websites and read the comments there. I’m constantly consuming something, and I’d say 90% of the time, the comments are negative. There

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National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month Does Not Have To Be Sad

October is national pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. If you have been following this blog, then you know that in February of 2018, my son Troy was stillborn. My husband and I do not know why we lost him and unfortunately, that is the case for a lot of infant deaths. At the beginning

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Five Prayers To Get You Through The Week

Please give me the strength to grow stronger in my marriage, Lord. The devil is trying to gain a way in, but Lord, I declare that he will find no victory. I rebuke any ill will towards my marriage. Lord, I ask that You work on me, through me, and within me. I ask that

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Loss and Rainbows

Before losing my son, I always thought of rainbows as a beautiful event after a storm. I thought they were pretty to look at, and as a child, I thought that there was treasure found at the end. In the loss community, rainbows take on a more significant meaning than just colors on a spectrum.

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Gotta Have Faith

If you would have told me last year that I would be at peace and not miserable, that I would actually have a child in my arms, I would have scoffed. Can I be transparent? I would have been indifferent if you told me that I would come to worship the Lord in the manner

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Stillbirth and Christ

As you all know from my previous posts, that I lost my firstborn, Troy, in 2018. During that time I grew closer to our Lord God as I had no one, other than my husband, to lean on. I lost friends that could not wrap their minds around the fact that I needed time to

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Dreaded Sleep Regression

I think I saw somewhere that babies have sleep regressions at nine months. In the earlier stages, I remember crying because Silas would not wake up. I would have to put a cold rag on him, and still he would not wake. Literally nothing would wake him, and as a mom parenting after loss, I

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Quick Question About Pregnancy And Work Place Safety

Hey guys, I’m currently working on putting together a PowerPoint for work about how we can make the environment safer for our pregnant employees. I was just curious if you could comment down below or send me an email at thelifeoftroysmama@gmail.com about some of the challenges you faced working while pregnant. I’ve just been amazed

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2020

I chose not to make any New Year’s resolutions because I never kept them. Instead, I chose to make realistic intentions. This year I am going to be intentional about my consistency and my time management. ‘Winging it’ is no longer going to work for me if I wish to build a tribe and help

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