Maybe The Problem is You

My favorite thing to do is to read. I’m on my bible app first thing in the morning, I scroll through Facebook and read the posts and the comments. Sometimes, I scroll on websites and read the comments there. I’m constantly consuming something, and I’d say 90% of the time, the comments are negative. There was an article that discussed how actress Lisa Raye was planning to marry some pastor. One of the comments stated, that they felt that it was wrong for a pastor to drive a car that was better than the members of the church. I have seen other comments or had people even say to me, “if God is so great, why am I in this situation”.


Here’s the thing, it is naive for anyone to believe that they will go through life without some type of sacrifice or tribulation. There is always something going on in the background, there is always some type of burden, there is always some type of inconvenience. How you react to those situations determines the outcome. God gave us free will. If you are having financial hardships, maybe ask yourself what did you do to get in this situation. Yes, pray to God to help you manage what you already have, and ask Him for financial freedom; but do not blame Him for the choices that you made. God did not tell you to go out and buy a brand new car with a $500 car note. This belief that if you do not have something, then no one should is absurd. In Jeremiah 29:11 God tells us, “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.


Going into quarter 4, there needs to be a mindset shift now. Do not wait until January to declare that this is a new year, new you. No, you need to make a change today. Stop worrying about what others have, you have no idea of their circumstances. I’ll be transparent, I had a friend who I had to stop hanging out with because they made me feel so uncomfortable. Every hangout, they would make comments about how much money they assumed I had based on my decent car, apartment, or because I feed my dogs ‘expensive’ food. I finally got so tired of the ‘digs’ that I told them, I have student loan debt, I have no work-life balance because I can not seem to get ahead. I am the sole provider for my family, and I also have to take care of my mom. I have to drive 60 miles a day for work, so I try to take care of my vehicle because I need it to last. I do not have it all together.


Instead of worrying about what others have or blaming God for what I think I lack, I intentionally choose to keep my head down. I intentionally ask Him to help me manage what I already have because I can not expect to be blessed with more if I don’t know how to manage what I already have. If you are serious about making a change, then do so today, do not wait until the new year. No, be intentional today and check yourself.

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thelifeoftroysmama

I'm 26 years old married to a wonderful man. Together we have a son named Troy that was born stillborn at 26 weeks. I created this blog to reach out to others that have gone through some type of loss or problem in their life and are wanting someone to vent to. No matter what challenges you may face in life, The Lord will never give you anything that you cannot handle. It is up to you to get up each day and want to make a change.

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