So, about a week or so ago I was featured on Build Her Up. org. You can read my guest post here. This more than overdue, but I just wanted to take some time out to give Ms. Nafeesah a shout out.
As you all know, I lost my firstborn in 2018, and since then God has placed a calling on my life to help other loss parents find their way back to Him. To be honest with you, I had no idea what that looked liked, nor did I really have the self-confidence to go out and truly market myself. Nafeesah and I met through Werk U, an online trade school for women of color. She didn’t have to, but she took time out of her busy schedule-running a business, grad school, and working, to talk me through my insecurities.
So, please go and check out her blog and show her some love. Also if you are wanting more information on what exactly Werk U is, you can click the link here.
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I chose not to make any New Year’s resolutions because I never kept them. Instead, I chose to make realistic intentions. This year I am going to be intentional about my consistency and my time management.
‘Winging it’ is no longer going to work for me if I wish to build a tribe and help other women navigate child loss. If I didn’t have other responsibilities, sure, I could probably get away with it, but that’s not my reality.
Fridays, when I have my guaranteed day off from work, I am spending majority of my morning playing with Silas. In fact, this past weekend, he only took one nap, so we had a lot of play time.
My time management will improve by planning out what items I am going to work on each day. I recently purchased a white board to write down the agenda for the day. Which is basically, what items are we going to get done around the house. This allows me to communicate more effectively with my husband about what I need help with, and it makes us more of a team. It’s also a nice reminder for both of us because we are more forgetful now that we have Silas. I feel like I still have pregnancy brain.
Another thing that I did differently, is I participated in a group fast last week. Turning the tv off for a week has been life changing for me. I didn’t realize how much time I was wasting by watching netflix or reality shows. I feel more engaged in my home life and its more peaceful to just have silence. Silas and I also spend a lot more time in his room playing with all the toys he got for Christmas.
2019, was actually a big year for me. I had Silas, had to navigate this whole parenting thing, and my husband and I purchased our first home. This year, I hope for it to be another big year in terms of success. I hope to grow closer to God because I feel as though there is always improvement in that area.
Most importantly, being an eye glass wearer, I am expecting some great deals on eye wear. There better be so ’20/20′ deals this year.
I just wanted to send out a quick update. I have not forgotten about The Armor of God bible study. I know I was supposed to summarize each week my take aways and how I’m implementing the skills and strategies in my everyday life.
As you all know, I was pretty knee deep into the home buying process, and my family and I actually closed and moved in back in December! Moving right before Christmas was so hectic, but luckily for us, the weather was actually pretty decent for winter. I admittedly got caught up with the closing process and just trying to get settled in our new home. I still have boxes that we need to unpack. During our move though, Silas and I both got sick. First Silas had a little bit of a cold, but it wasn’t too bad, so I thought we were going to make it out of his first cold easy.
I was wrong.
I then got sick from Silas. I kept running fevers, and actually ended up with an ear infection. It was so bad that I didn’t get to spend Christmas with my in laws. My sister in law is pregnant, and it wouldn’t have been a great idea to be around her when I was so sick. At one point I couldn’t even make it out of bed without help.
Remember when I said I was wrong about Silas’s first cold being easy? Well, he got sick again. Probably from me. It got so bad that I ended up making him an appointment. He wouldn’t stop crying because he was running fevers, and he wasn’t eating because he was crying so much. He ended up getting an ear infection and the flu.
I’m happy to report that we are both fine, and luckily Ben didn’t get sick. So, I will be back to updating at least once a week. Sorry I went so long without talking to you guys.
Also, don’t forget to check out my new podcast, Parenting after loss, on apple podcasts and spotify. I’m looking to get it on google play soon.
So, I’m thinking for the month of December, I will start reading The Armor of God by Priscilla Shirer. This isn’t what you would normally think of as a self-improvement book, but I think we need to go into this new decade with our armor equipped at all times. I’ll make a post on Fridays discussing the study, and how I am implementing it into my life. Hopefully some of you will be able to do the same, and we can get some conversation going.
Second update I am going to be posting at least once a week on Fridays. Fridays are my only guaranteed day off, and your girl is about to work three weekends in a row. Which actually leads me into the third update…
We put in an offer on another home! We find out tomorrow if they are going to go with our offer or someone else’s. We would definitely love to be in a home sooner than later. Baldwin, our 80lb husky, can no longer go up the stairs at our apartment, so a backyard would be a huge relief for him and us.
No call to actions today, just wanted to share with you guys some of things going on.