Quick Question About Pregnancy And Work Place Safety

Hey guys,

I’m currently working on putting together a PowerPoint for work about how we can make the environment safer for our pregnant employees. I was just curious if you could comment down below or send me an email at thelifeoftroysmama@gmail.com about some of the challenges you faced working while pregnant.

I’ve just been amazed at the number of people that I have talked to, that don’t even have a space where they can pump at work. So please comment or send me an email. The only way we can make improvements is if we speak up.

Dealing With Burnout

October is national infant loss awareness month, and as most of you know, my husband and I lost our firstborn, Troy. I had no intention of being sad this month. Instead I wanted to honor Troy by spending more time with family, and just being happy that he is my son. Unfortunately things didn’t pan out how I envisioned.

Between the disconnect with my mom, pressures from my employer, and pressures from my business, my soul was left vulnerable. Typically I am able to cope with the loss stories, but this month was hard. I kept hearing that I was going to birth this, deliver that, or I would see my rainbow’s name in the same sentence as death, and honestly it got to me.

This week, I needed to take a step back. I had to recharge myself and seek God more heavily. I had to remind myself to put on my armor every single day. I needed to get back to just sitting in silence.

This weekend, if you have been dealing with some burnout, I encourage you to go back to basics. Turn your phone off for a couple of hours, and just be still. Seek God, journal, or even play video games. The point is to recharge your battery.

Prayer For The Bereaved Parent

My sibling in Christ, I wish I could bring you in closer, and tell you that everything will be okay. I know right now that you are not ready to hear that. How can everything be okay if you just lost your baby? How is everything going to be okay when moving on seems like a betrayal? I know to an extent of how you are feeling, for I too have lost. My firstborn, Troy, was born still at 26 weeks. We had just put together his crib when we learned that he went back home. So, I do know of the pain, but every grief is unique, so I will not say that I know exactly how you feel.

It won’t happen tomorrow or even next month, but eventually the grief will begin to lift little by little. You won’t feel like every moment is suffocating. You won’t feel like giving up. Most importantly you won’t blame yourself.

Today, I ask You, Lord, to take some of the pain away. I ask You to help lift their burdens. I pray that they will turn towards You, Lord, and that they will find comfort in Your embrace. I pray that they will find ways to honor their precious babies, and that they will not dwell in their grief. I truly believe that all of our children would want us to be happy and celebrate them. So, Lord, I ask that You will be with them today as they navigate the day.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month Does Not Have To Be Sad

October is national pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. If you have been following this blog, then you know that in February of 2018, my son Troy was stillborn. My husband and I do not know why we lost him and unfortunately, that is the case for a lot of infant deaths. At the beginning of my grief, I blamed myself because I carried him, and my body failed him. It took a lot for me to not blame myself, work, or God.


Yes, God. I was very angry with Him because I did not understand why He would allow something like this to happen to my family. Why would He allow a child that was so loved to die without any cause? Once I admitted out loud to Him just how angry I was, I suddenly began to heal. I began reading my Bible more, trying to understand more about this God that I was taught to believe in. I realized that He was grieving with me and that He too knew the pain of losing a child.


I look at Silas sometimes and wonder if Troy would have been as happy and boisterous as him. I do not dwell on these thoughts for long, and instead, I tell myself how lucky Silas is to have an older brother that is always watching over him.


In honor of Troy, I will not be spending this month sad. I will instead make the conscious decision to uplift others in his name, serve others, and give thanks. You can choose to dwell in your remorse if that is your desire, but as for myself and my family, we are choosing to bless others and to show one another how much we love and appreciate each other.


If you do not want to honor your child’s memory with sadness, then join me in uplifting others. Send a loved one a simple text message about how grateful you are for them. Volunteer in your community or spend the afternoon going on a family hike. Whatever it is that you choose to do, do so in a way that you feel your child would love. And if it is okay with you, I would like to pray for you.


Dear Heavenly Father,
Please watch over your children Lord. This is a difficult month for many Lord, and I just ask that You help to relieve them of some of their pain. Lord, I ask that You watch over those rainbow babies and I ask that You bless those that are scared to try again. Lord, I declare that this month will be one of healing and not one of sadness. I declare that these precious mamas will know that it is okay to celebrate their angel baby. That while they may not have had the opportunity to raise them here on earth, they will be with them again. That no matter what some may say, that they are parents, and no one can take that away from them.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

If you would like to support me, I wrote a seven day devotional specifically for us loss mamas. I know for me reading loss books and joining Facebook groups, helped me in my journey of healing.

Five Prayers To Get You Through The Week

Marriage Prayer

Please give me the strength to grow stronger in my marriage, Lord. The devil is trying to gain a way in, but Lord, I declare that he will find no victory. I rebuke any ill will towards my marriage. Lord, I ask that You work on me, through me, and within me. I ask that You help me to change so that I am a better spouse. I pray that You open my spouse’s heart, so that we may live more peacefully. I declare that we will see many years together and we will do so happily.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Finance Prayer

Dear Lord,

I am praying to You for a miracle, Lord. The bills are piling up and the money that I worked so hard for, seems to be for naught. I turn towards You, so that I may have everlasting peace, and so that I may enjoy my time here on earth. Lord, I ask that You help me to manage what I already have. I ask that You bless me abundantly. Even though I have little to give, I will still pay my tithes to You. Lord, I realize that if You are to bless me, that I need to give my dues. So, Lord, as I give You my tenth- Your tenth, I ask that You see fit to bless me this month.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Family Prayer

Lord, please watch over my family every second and every moment of the day. I anoint myself and my family in Your holy spirit, in the blood of Jesus Christ, and in Your grace. I pray that my child will continue to grow stronger and healthier. I pray that my spouse will remain steadfast and healthy. Let no harm find us. Let us not react in anger, but to give each other grace. But more importantly, Lord, let us worship You with grace and dignity.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Grief

Lord, I ask that I can lean on You as I process the loss of my loved ones. Lord, the holidays will soon be approaching and with them, they seem to shine a light on those that are no longer on earth with us. Lord, I pray for your strength and guidance, so that I can uplift those that I have lost. I pray that I will be able to honor them and spread joy to others because I know that I will see my lost one again. So, today Lord, I draw in closer to Your embrace, and I ask that You help to share some of the pain that I am feeling. I ask that You take some of the pain away so that instead of mourning my loved one, I instead celebrate the life they lived while they were here.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

WellBeing

Heavenly Father,

There are three months left in this year. Some would say not enough to make a change, but I serve a living God. So, Lord, I pray to You today asking for Your help. I ask that You help me to make a change. Lord, I declare that I will eat healthier and lose weight so that I am physically strong. I need to be able to endure this task that You have called for me to do. Lord, I declare that any negative thoughts about myself will cease because I know that I was made perfect in your eyes. Lord, I declare that my patience will increase and my anger will not be so quick to ignite. Lord, I pray that You will open my heart to these changes and that I will know that it was through Your grace that I will be anew.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.