2020

I chose not to make any New Year’s resolutions because I never kept them. Instead, I chose to make realistic intentions. This year I am going to be intentional about my consistency and my time management.

‘Winging it’ is no longer going to work for me if I wish to build a tribe and help other women navigate child loss. If I didn’t have other responsibilities, sure, I could probably get away with it, but that’s not my reality.

Fridays, when I have my guaranteed day off from work, I am spending majority of my morning playing with Silas. In fact, this past weekend, he only took one nap, so we had a lot of play time.

My time management will improve by planning out what items I am going to work on each day. I recently purchased a white board to write down the agenda for the day. Which is basically, what items are we going to get done around the house. This allows me to communicate more effectively with my husband about what I need help with, and it makes us more of a team. It’s also a nice reminder for both of us because we are more forgetful now that we have Silas. I feel like I still have pregnancy brain.

Another thing that I did differently, is I participated in a group fast last week. Turning the tv off for a week has been life changing for me. I didn’t realize how much time I was wasting by watching netflix or reality shows. I feel more engaged in my home life and its more peaceful to just have silence. Silas and I also spend a lot more time in his room playing with all the toys he got for Christmas.

2019, was actually a big year for me. I had Silas, had to navigate this whole parenting thing, and my husband and I purchased our first home. This year, I hope for it to be another big year in terms of success. I hope to grow closer to God because I feel as though there is always improvement in that area.

Most importantly, being an eye glass wearer, I am expecting some great deals on eye wear. There better be so ’20/20′ deals this year.

Personal Development For The New Year

Lately I have been feeling stuck in terms of what to do with my career, and my life in general. I’ve discussed this with my current supervisor, and I just don’t feel mentally stimulated anymore. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for the promotion and the pay raise that came with it. That raise will definitely help my family out as we continue to house hunt. The problem;however, is that my job role essentially stayed the same.

I’ve just been feeling like I need to go deeper. Deeper with my relationship with Christ, deeper in my relationships, and deeper in my own personal development. With 2020 approaching in two months, we will all be going into a new decade. Instead of waiting until the new year to make resolution goals, I was wondering if anyone would want to join me in reading at least one personal development book.

If this is something that you are interested in, then please comment below. I don’t have a book in mind just yet, but I would love to be able to discuss takeaways, and how we can implement the strategies in our lives.

Maybe The Problem is You

My favorite thing to do is to read. I’m on my bible app first thing in the morning, I scroll through Facebook and read the posts and the comments. Sometimes, I scroll on websites and read the comments there. I’m constantly consuming something, and I’d say 90% of the time, the comments are negative. There was an article that discussed how actress Lisa Raye was planning to marry some pastor. One of the comments stated, that they felt that it was wrong for a pastor to drive a car that was better than the members of the church. I have seen other comments or had people even say to me, “if God is so great, why am I in this situation”.


Here’s the thing, it is naive for anyone to believe that they will go through life without some type of sacrifice or tribulation. There is always something going on in the background, there is always some type of burden, there is always some type of inconvenience. How you react to those situations determines the outcome. God gave us free will. If you are having financial hardships, maybe ask yourself what did you do to get in this situation. Yes, pray to God to help you manage what you already have, and ask Him for financial freedom; but do not blame Him for the choices that you made. God did not tell you to go out and buy a brand new car with a $500 car note. This belief that if you do not have something, then no one should is absurd. In Jeremiah 29:11 God tells us, “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.


Going into quarter 4, there needs to be a mindset shift now. Do not wait until January to declare that this is a new year, new you. No, you need to make a change today. Stop worrying about what others have, you have no idea of their circumstances. I’ll be transparent, I had a friend who I had to stop hanging out with because they made me feel so uncomfortable. Every hangout, they would make comments about how much money they assumed I had based on my decent car, apartment, or because I feed my dogs ‘expensive’ food. I finally got so tired of the ‘digs’ that I told them, I have student loan debt, I have no work-life balance because I can not seem to get ahead. I am the sole provider for my family, and I also have to take care of my mom. I have to drive 60 miles a day for work, so I try to take care of my vehicle because I need it to last. I do not have it all together.


Instead of worrying about what others have or blaming God for what I think I lack, I intentionally choose to keep my head down. I intentionally ask Him to help me manage what I already have because I can not expect to be blessed with more if I don’t know how to manage what I already have. If you are serious about making a change, then do so today, do not wait until the new year. No, be intentional today and check yourself.