Being The Only Black Woman Can Be Isolating

Now hear me out about this, it can be extremely isolating being the only black woman in my group. It can be extremely isolating being the only mother in my group. I lost a lot of friends in the lay-off three years ago, and now I’m in a stage where there’s a big gap of ages.

Everyone seems to be fresh out of college, and it’s honestly hard to relate. I’ve been out of undergrad for almost four years now, and it’s amazing how much can change in so little time.

Others assume that I don’t like them because I don’t join in on their sex talks or about getting drunk. I think there is a time and place for everything, and work is not the place for such talks. I feel as though I’m in the minority on this.

I saw an article that explained how you can’t be black and an introvert in the work place. Black women have a stereotype of being angry, and so when I keep to myself, working on projects, I’m seen as not social by my group. I’m seen as not being helpful because I choose be productivity over standing around in a room, chatting, while others do a task that only takes thirty minutes.

I’ve tried to shift the conversations away from unsavory topics onto more work related or at the very least ‘PG’ subjects.

I titled this post, Being The Only Black Woman Can Be Isolating, because I have noticed over the years how much harder I have to work than my coworkers. I have noticed that if I’m not in everyone’s face, telling jokes, than I’m seen as having an attitude.

I think the only way these stereotypes will change is by talking about our challenges. I could keep all this bottled up, but that would only serve to hurt me or come out in a negative way.

Quick Question About Pregnancy And Work Place Safety

Hey guys,

I’m currently working on putting together a PowerPoint for work about how we can make the environment safer for our pregnant employees. I was just curious if you could comment down below or send me an email at thelifeoftroysmama@gmail.com about some of the challenges you faced working while pregnant.

I’ve just been amazed at the number of people that I have talked to, that don’t even have a space where they can pump at work. So please comment or send me an email. The only way we can make improvements is if we speak up.

Prayer For Monday

Dear Heavenly Father,

I ask that You are with us today as we go about our morning routines. I ask that You are with us as we are preparing to start our work week. As always, let no weapon formed against us prosper, let no lies whispered in our minds take root. Lord, we cast out fear and any negative talks about ourselves. Those lies, we cast down to our feet, and we step over them, Lord.

Lord, we also pray for those alerts that we keep receiving on our phones and in the news. Lord, we pray for the safety of our children, and that lost children will be found unharmed. We pray for this nation. There is so much sin and corruption going on Lord, but we put on our armor of protection, and drown out all the noise.

Today, Lord, I am declaring that it will be a joyful day. I am declaring clarity for this week. I am declaring that miracles will happen, and that more will turn towards You.

Amen.

Positive Employers Should Be The Norm

I was scrolling through my Facebook feed, when I came across an article about how this man’s mortgage was preventing him from retiring. In the headline, the article stated how the elderly man’s employer actually paid off the man’s mortgage, so that he could enjoy retirement. The article had a lot of likes and reshares.

I’ll admit, I didn’t click on the article and read it through. My first thought was how wonderful that employer was for lifting his employees financial burden. My second thought was, how awful it is that stories like these aren’t the norm.

Now, I’m not saying that employers are responsible for their employees’ financial choices. What makes me sad is that we have gotten into this cycle of being replaceable. So many employers aren’t keeping employees to retirement anymore because it’s much cheaper to higher someone younger, than to reward loyalty.

Employee retention rates would probably be higher if employers made them feel valued. After a certain point, money doesn’t keep employees happy and engaged. Security, feeling appreciated, and work life balance is what attracts company loyalty.

I would like to imagine that sometime down the line, stories about wonderful employers will be the norm.

Monday’s Prayer

Lord,
Thank You for waking every one of us up this morning. Thank You for watching over us through the night while the enemy prowled around. Lord, this morning, I want to declare that no harm shall come on Your people.

I pray that when Your people awake this morning, that they will not groan or whine about it being Monday, but instead they will wake joyfully, for they have been provided another day to make a change. That they can start their week off right by glorifying You. Lord, I declare that those who are in need will see a breakthrough.

That, they will receive a call or an email today telling them that they have the position that they have been praying for. That when they go to check their accounts or pay their rent, that there will be an extra credit. Lord, I declare that those who seek You will have peace on this day.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.